A Reddit dad u/funzies86 has a 23-year-old daughter who refuses to hearken to his recommendation and decides to do issues her method. Now, she is pregnant and needs to maneuver in together with her boyfriend into his house.
Here is The Story:
Just a few years in the past, OP’s spouse (his daughter’s stepmother) took his daughter to get a contraception implant. In response to him, his daughter was completely happy about getting the implant.
A 12 months after this, OP’s daughter met a man on-line and in OP’s phrases she “falls in love.” The man is 28, financially stable, and lives in one other state.
His daughter began speaking about how she and the man each wish to get married and have a toddler. Three months earlier than she deliberate to go meet him in individual, she informed her dad that she had gotten her implant out and switched to the capsule. She mentioned she did it as a result of she did not just like the implant anymore.
OP was uneasy about this, and determined to speak to her about it and reiterated how essential it was for her to correctly take the tablets daily. As well as, OP went over the cost of raising children and the way huge of a duty infants are. He informed her that, whereas he cherished his youngsters and cherished elevating them, he had no real interest in elevating his grandchildren.
To chop the story quick, OP’s daughter went on the journey and bought pregnant. Additionally, on account of morning illness, she had been lacking out on work loads. Regardless of all of this, OP’s daughter was bent on retaining the newborn.
Now, OP’s daughter referred to as him to ask if she and her boyfriend may transfer in with him whereas the boyfriend appears for a job. However in accordance with OP, the boyfriend, “would not have any important work historical past or training, and is morbidly overweight which trigger him loads of well being issues, so presently he’s on incapacity.”
His daughter defined that they might save up cash and be out earlier than the newborn is born. However, OP would not imagine his daughter will comply with via. He wrote:
“My daughter has a historical past of not following via on her commitments and I do know that she will not really transfer out earlier than she has the newborn, and doubtless not for a protracted whereas after. She has hassle taking duty for herself and I’m guessing we would be the ones coping with the newborn principally.”
OP added that he and his spouse already took in a cat his daughter adopted and refused to wash up after. Plus, he and his spouse have two younger youngsters of their very own and OP would not desire a unusual man round them.
When OP’s daughter and her boyfriend determined to get a spot collectively, OP mentioned he’d assist with the primary month’s lease. However for his daughter and his ex-wife, this wasn’t sufficient.
Now, OP is asking Redditors if he’s mistaken.
Redditors Cross a Verdict:
u/Madame-Defarge went straight to the purpose:
“NTA. If she is mature sufficient to have a child, she must be mature sufficient to look after it with out foisting these duties onto OP. And OP is correct that if he agrees to this, he would be the one elevating the newborn. Being a mother or father shouldn’t be a suicide pact and doesn’t imply you must assist the whole lot the grownup little one does.”
One other Reddit consumer u/SilverRoseBlade commented,
“Agreed. OP is being beneficiant right here. Folks shouldn’t have kids until they’re able to handle them and on this case the daughter couldn’t even handle a cat! How is she going to handle a toddler? NTA.”
A consumer u/FuzzyPeachDong tried to elucidate that there was nothing mistaken with having youngsters early, however the issue lay in pushing the duty to another person,
“I see what you guys are saying right here, however I bought my first child at 22. All deliberate and really a lot wished and hoped for. Getting youngsters younger would not equal unhealthy life selections total. Getting youngsters younger is not a nasty resolution both. Getting pregnant by principally a random dude with out plans on how one can assist your self or your new child is a reasonably unhealthy resolution, although. For what it is price, we’re in our mid-thirties and nonetheless along with few extra youngsters now. Married ages in the past and acquired our personal place a few years in the past too. And jobs and all that shit. However the level is, we had plans. A number of, for various situations. “Another person will deal with this for me” shouldn’t be a plan, so OP is def NTA.”
Lastly, Redditors concluded that OP is NTA. Do you assume so too?
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